A Gay Debate: Chapter Four- The Bad News

To modern minds “Good” simply means, “Lacking evil.” Evil is measured by the physical cost. Thus, smoking is evil because it results in cancer, drunk driving is evil because it results in deadly crashes and Vampires are evil because they result in the Twilight movies. If there’s no body count, we tend to say there’s no evil, and if no evil, then good. Getting drunk, therefore, is good, and drunk driving is bad.  I bring this up because almost all of the arguments for legalizing Gay marriage, or even simply accepting the lifestyle, are along these lines: “What business is it of yours?” “Why do you care?” “Who are they hurting?” 

In short, the argument seems, for many people, to go as follows:

  1. I don’t know why you think it’s bad.
  2. If I don’t know what would make it bad, then a suitable reason must not exist.
  3. If it’s not bad, it MUST be good.
  4.  If it is good, then those who oppose it are evil.
  5. Thus, it is right to hate Christians and republicans. I’m going to burn down a Target and steal a 65 inch flat screen tv.

Or something to that extent. Before I reply to this argument, allow me to draw your attention to the fact that I have never heard ANYONE who started by saying “Homosexuality is good because…” Like the above argument, every one I have ever heard begins with an admission of ignorance in the form of a question or an assumption. But I’m not here to teach the basics of logic and debate. For right now, I’m just going to answer the question: 

“Who does it hurt?”

The answer is: It hurts the homosexuals themselves, the children in their care, and the culture that embraces the redefinitions of marriage and love.

Because some of you are already swearing at your monitors, I present statistical information which sadly supports my reply. I know many of you will say, “MY gay friends aren’t like this!” and I hope you are right. I hope the same is true of all of my gay friends, but even if we are right about our friends, that doesn’t change anything in the big picture. George Burns smoked until he was 105, but that doesn’t make smoking any less bad for you. I have friends who have driven drunk and made it home safe and sound, where as I hit an SUV under the influence of nothing stronger than coffee and an unfortunate rain puddle. That doesn’t mean driving drunk is the better alternative to coffee. It’s time to face the bad news and decide if really loving our friends means supporting their homosexual lifestyle, or if loving them would mean helping them out of it. Buckle up kids- this gets ugly:

1. Like smoking or driving drunk, living a homosexual lifestyle is linked to serious health risks.

In 1999, 50 percent of all new AIDS cases were reported among young homosexuals. During the year 2003, the CDC estimated that about 63% of newly diagnosed HIV infections in the U.S. were among men who were infected through sexual contact with other men. The Center for Disease Control estimates that men who have sex with men accounted for just 2% of the population in 2009, but accounted for 61% of all new HIV infections.

No doubt, some of you are making the fairly logical conclusion that, were they allowed to marry, homosexuals would be in steady relationships and thus not as likely to engage in the same risky, promiscuous behaviors that leads to these numbers. Sadly, that is not the case. A study by the Dutch Department of Health and Environment (2001), found that 67 percent of HIV-positive men aged 30 and younger had been infected by a steady partner. The study concluded: “In recent years, young gay men have become more likely to contract HIV from a steady sexual partner than from a casual one.”

We decided that smoking was bad, not because no one enjoyed it, but because it was killing people. We outlawed drunk driving, not because no one wants to do it, but because it was killing the people who chose to do it, and far too often killed those around them. For decades AIDS has been killing homosexuals in disproportionate numbers. From this angle, trying to grant more legal protection to homosexuality is like turning the car pool lane into the “Drunks Only” lane. Sure, it’s giving acceptance, freedom, and even temporary happiness to a formerly imposed upon part of the population, but the death toll isn’t going to go down on account of your generosity.

2. Homosexuality is linked to other self- destructive behaviors.

Homosexuality used to be seen and treated as a sickness. When the American Psychiatric Association changed their minds about this in the 60’s, it was NOT due to new information. It was due to political pressure. This is what happened to anti-Semetism in the 1930’s. The Church said, “Hate is wrong. Jews are people too.” Then Hitler applied some “political pressure.”

The link homosexuals have with addictions and depression are not linked to social rejection or family rejection, as these stats are consistent in states, subcultures, and countries where homosexuality and gay marriage are accepted. The following info shows that homosexuals are anything but gay (If you don’t get this pun, then look up the word “gay” in a dictionary from before 1960):

A study in Family Planning Perspective showed: “Among men, by far the most important risk group consisted of homosexual and bisexual men, who were more than nine times as likely as heterosexual men to have a history of problem drinking.” A study published in Nursing Research found that lesbians are three times more likely to abuse alcohol and suffer from other compulsive behaviors than heterosexual women. In 2007 the Los Angeles Times reported the frequency of methamphetamine use is 20 times greater among homosexuals than in the general population. Archives of General Psychiatry, found that homosexuals with same-sex partners were at greater risk for overall mental health problems, and were 6.5 times more likely than their twins to have attempted suicide. A 2008 “meta-analysis” reviewed over 13,000 papers on this subject and compiled the data from the 28 most rigorous studies. Their conclusion was: “LGB [lesbian, gay, bisexual] people are at higher risk of mental disorder, suicidal ideation, substance misuse and deliberate self-harm than heterosexual people.”

Nobody is glad to see these numbers, but if you love your homosexual friends and family, you can’t just ignore this info. It does them no good for us to say, “Oh well, if it makes them happy, then what does it matter?” What this tells us is, it DOESN’T make them happy. God forbids homosexuality because he has something better- something which leads to joy. God forbids homosexuality BECAUSE he loves those people, not because he wants to ruin their fun. These are drunks staggering to their car for a joy ride. Being a good friend is going to be harder than simply shouting, “Drive careful!” Sometimes loving people means wrestling the keys out of their hands before someone dies.

3. Homosexuals are more likely to be abused in their relationship partner than heterosexual couples.

Sadly, “happily ever after” is not the norm for homosexual relationships. The Journal of Social Service Research found that slightly more than half of the lesbians surveyed reported that they had been abused by a female lover/partner (2000). A recent study by the Canadian government states that “violence was twice as common among homosexual couples compared with heterosexual couples.” The American College of Pediatricians who cite several studies say, “Violence among homosexual partners is two to three times more common than among married heterosexual couples.”

Who does it hurt? It hurts themselves, it hurts those in relationships with them, and it hurts the children who are raised under their custody.

4. Homosexual behavior and child abuse are linked.

Since almost thirty percent of child sexual abuse is committed by homosexual or bisexual men (one third male-on-male abuse times 86% identifying themselves as homosexual or bisexual), but less than 3% of American men identify themselves as homosexual or bisexual, we can infer that homosexual or bisexual men are approximately ten times more likely to molest children than heterosexual men.

A study in “Adolescence” found: “A disproportionate percentage—29 percent—of the adult children of homosexual parents had been specifically subjected to sexual molestation by that homosexual parent, compared to only 0.6 percent of adult children of heterosexual parents having reported sexual relations with their parent.…Having a homosexual parent(s) appears to increase the risk of incest with a parent by a factor of about 50.

The first group of pedophile abusers are SELF IDENTIFIED bi/gay men, and the 30% of adults who were abused by their own parents as kids had what THEY identified as homosexual parents. So, the common argument that “Just because a man sexually assaults a boy DOESN’T make him gay,” doesn’t apply here. And let’s all admit that it’s not the Christian right who has to answer for NAMBLA.

Let’s make a deal: I’ll trade you NAMBLA for GodHatesFags.com. We can ship them both off to Iran and just pretend neither one ever existed.

Do you love your homosexual friends and family enough to NOT support their lifestyle choices?

If we grant the legalization of gay marriage, it will lead to easier adoption for homosexual couples, which will put more children at risk. No one is claiming that ALL homosexuals are child molesters, nor drug addicts, nor suicidal, nor abusive to their lovers. But then, not all drunk drivers crash into a minivan and kill a family of five. They’re just  more likely to. That’s why the law does NOT support the decision of drunk adults to drive. It’s to protect them and those around them. I suppose the question here is, do you love your homosexual friends and family enough to NOT support their lifestyle choices, or only enough to REALLY HOPE that these stats don’t apply to them?

This is a lot to chew on, and there’s more to come. For right now, let’s sum up. First of all, there is a real good, and that’s God. He loves us, and he gave us not only marriage and sex, but the rules governing them because he loves us and because he is good. Homosexuality is bad, not merely because it differs from the good which is marriage God’s way, but because it hurts those that live with it. Loving our homosexual friends and family  does not mean supporting homosexuality or gay marriage any more than loving our drinking friends means we support laws which allow them to drive drunk. Sometimes you show the most love by taking their keys away and letting them live to curse at you for it. Hopefully, they’ll thank you when they wake up sober and alive. If not, you’ve still done the right thing.

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